Comments on: Dear Fellow Mothers http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/06/dear-fellow-mothers/ Ivy league Insecurites Thu, 09 Feb 2012 21:26:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: My Birth Story « ivy league insecurities http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/06/dear-fellow-mothers/#comment-142 My Birth Story « ivy league insecurities Fri, 17 Jul 2009 14:28:35 +0000 http://ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/06/dear-fellow-mothers/#comment-142 [...] labor stories. And, like a seasoned flip-flopper, I have landed all over the place on this one. Do not tell the details! And then a few days later: Tell the details! Honesty should be suspended! Honesty should never be [...] [...] labor stories. And, like a seasoned flip-flopper, I have landed all over the place on this one. Do not tell the details! And then a few days later: Tell the details! Honesty should be suspended! Honesty should never be [...]

]]> By: Mama http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/06/dear-fellow-mothers/#comment-97 Mama Fri, 26 Jun 2009 15:56:59 +0000 http://ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/06/dear-fellow-mothers/#comment-97 I have to disagree. I believe in telling the honest truth, because not telling it just makes women freak out when they are in the middle of it and things AREN'T going perfectly. I would rather them know that it's perfectly normal to NOT have the birth you expect. And I think it's almost criminal that nobody tells you about the aftermath. Knowing it's coming, IMO, makes the experience less terrifying.<br /><br />Guess this is just one area where your mileage may vary. :) I have to disagree. I believe in telling the honest truth, because not telling it just makes women freak out when they are in the middle of it and things AREN'T going perfectly. I would rather them know that it's perfectly normal to NOT have the birth you expect. And I think it's almost criminal that nobody tells you about the aftermath. Knowing it's coming, IMO, makes the experience less terrifying.

Guess this is just one area where your mileage may vary. :)

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/06/dear-fellow-mothers/#comment-96 Anonymous Fri, 26 Jun 2009 14:49:50 +0000 http://ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/06/dear-fellow-mothers/#comment-96 Lol! So true. I actually do not tell my labor stories in part because they were so uneventful. I figure I was really lucky and why set others' expectations for something that is entirely out of anyone's control. One thing that really bugs me is when people act superior about their labors, (eg: I did it drug-free, no c section etc!) I wonder if these same women who see epidurals/c sections as signs of weakness are the ones that judge in the wohms/wahms/sahm forum. To me, childbirth is result oriented, it is not a competition. (the goal is simply to bring home a healthy baby.) I am proud of many things I've done in my life, especially regarding my children, but my labor truly does not rank up there. <br />Hope you are enjoying your time away, off to prepare for (10!) 8 year old girls that will descend on our apartment tonight for A's slumber party! (Yes, I am crazy, thank god for wine and the Disney Channel's premiere of the "Princess Protection Program!")<br />D Lol! So true. I actually do not tell my labor stories in part because they were so uneventful. I figure I was really lucky and why set others' expectations for something that is entirely out of anyone's control. One thing that really bugs me is when people act superior about their labors, (eg: I did it drug-free, no c section etc!) I wonder if these same women who see epidurals/c sections as signs of weakness are the ones that judge in the wohms/wahms/sahm forum. To me, childbirth is result oriented, it is not a competition. (the goal is simply to bring home a healthy baby.) I am proud of many things I've done in my life, especially regarding my children, but my labor truly does not rank up there.
Hope you are enjoying your time away, off to prepare for (10!) 8 year old girls that will descend on our apartment tonight for A's slumber party! (Yes, I am crazy, thank god for wine and the Disney Channel's premiere of the "Princess Protection Program!")
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