Comments on: Five Years http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/12/five-years/ Ivy league Insecurites Sun, 05 Feb 2012 03:23:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Amazing (a.k.a. Under the Whale with Sir Elton John) | ivy league insecurities http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/12/five-years/#comment-14800 Amazing (a.k.a. Under the Whale with Sir Elton John) | ivy league insecurities Fri, 19 Nov 2010 17:23:53 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3491#comment-14800 [...] night. We walk to the Museum. The Museum. Our Museum. The Museum of Natural History. The magical place where Husband and I celebrated our wedding almost six years ago. The magical place where our little girls run and roam. We head to the annual Museum Gala. Husband [...] [...] night. We walk to the Museum. The Museum. Our Museum. The Museum of Natural History. The magical place where Husband and I celebrated our wedding almost six years ago. The magical place where our little girls run and roam. We head to the annual Museum Gala. Husband [...]

]]> By: Maidy-Bunks’ Picnic | ivy league insecurities http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/12/five-years/#comment-5400 Maidy-Bunks’ Picnic | ivy league insecurities Mon, 22 Mar 2010 11:55:28 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3491#comment-5400 [...] I studied the complex canopy of tree branches, the knobs and knots, the lines thick and thin, winding and wispy. I took comfort in the reality that not one branch was perfectly straight. [...] [...] I studied the complex canopy of tree branches, the knobs and knots, the lines thick and thin, winding and wispy. I took comfort in the reality that not one branch was perfectly straight. [...]

]]> By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/12/five-years/#comment-2094 Aidan Donnelley Rowley Sun, 20 Dec 2009 20:59:32 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3491#comment-2094 (I am thrilled you are back and hope you come back often to read my words and leave yours!) Ah, the beauty of cause and effect. It means something that I made you (and possibly others) smile. I like the idea that our words have some power, some agency even. That they can alter emotions and change the trajectory of thoughts. Eleven years! Yes, it is about finding that "just us" even in the midst of a chaotic and compelling life of so many others. I like to think that "us" is constantly evolving and that on these anniversaries (and all days really) we can reminisce about one "us" while being another "us." (I am thrilled you are back and hope you come back often to read my words and leave yours!)

Ah, the beauty of cause and effect. It means something that I made you (and possibly others) smile. I like the idea that our words have some power, some agency even. That they can alter emotions and change the trajectory of thoughts.

Eleven years! Yes, it is about finding that “just us” even in the midst of a chaotic and compelling life of so many others. I like to think that “us” is constantly evolving and that on these anniversaries (and all days really) we can reminisce about one “us” while being another “us.”

]]> By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/12/five-years/#comment-2093 Aidan Donnelley Rowley Sun, 20 Dec 2009 20:56:22 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3491#comment-2093 Thanks for this reminder. Yes, marriages, good marriages, need constant nourishment and nurturing. I have a post brewing about a recent NYT article that posits that we get married every day. That getting married does not happen in an instant, but over time. I love this idea and plan to explore it soon! Apres "break"... Thanks for this reminder. Yes, marriages, good marriages, need constant nourishment and nurturing. I have a post brewing about a recent NYT article that posits that we get married every day. That getting married does not happen in an instant, but over time. I love this idea and plan to explore it soon! Apres “break”…

]]> By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/12/five-years/#comment-2092 Aidan Donnelley Rowley Sun, 20 Dec 2009 20:52:45 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3491#comment-2092 Nine years. Not too shabby! And what a wonderful example your parents have set. Forty years is a major accomplishment and something worth celebrating. My parents were married forty years too before my dad passed away and I am very proud of that. Some marriages are very sturdy and strong and these marriages should be celebrated on big days (and every day.) (Hope the party was great!) Nine years. Not too shabby! And what a wonderful example your parents have set. Forty years is a major accomplishment and something worth celebrating. My parents were married forty years too before my dad passed away and I am very proud of that. Some marriages are very sturdy and strong and these marriages should be celebrated on big days (and every day.)

(Hope the party was great!)

]]> By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/12/five-years/#comment-2091 Aidan Donnelley Rowley Sun, 20 Dec 2009 20:48:07 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3491#comment-2091 Welcome to ILI (or at least the comment box). Thanks for sharing a bit about your wedding day. There really is something incredible about that day and how it so clearly demarcates a Before and After. I am pleased that I was able to bring you back to your big day. I am sorry to hear that your father and your in-laws were not there on your wedding day. I think it is amazing that you and your husband escorted each other toward the chuppah and the future on your big day. (Your comment has me thinking now about the question of when childhood expires. Is it when we marry? Or when we lose a parent? Or does childhood expire over and over? I have a post brewing about this and I will be interested to see what you have to say.) Welcome to ILI (or at least the comment box). Thanks for sharing a bit about your wedding day. There really is something incredible about that day and how it so clearly demarcates a Before and After. I am pleased that I was able to bring you back to your big day. I am sorry to hear that your father and your in-laws were not there on your wedding day. I think it is amazing that you and your husband escorted each other toward the chuppah and the future on your big day.

(Your comment has me thinking now about the question of when childhood expires. Is it when we marry? Or when we lose a parent? Or does childhood expire over and over? I have a post brewing about this and I will be interested to see what you have to say.)

]]> By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/12/five-years/#comment-2089 Aidan Donnelley Rowley Sun, 20 Dec 2009 20:16:05 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3491#comment-2089 Thanks so much, Becky! Thanks so much, Becky!

]]> By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/12/five-years/#comment-2088 Aidan Donnelley Rowley Sun, 20 Dec 2009 20:15:50 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3491#comment-2088 Honestly, I would never have known about the wooden anniversary thing if I didn't Google it. Don't think it's common knowledge, but kind of fun to learn, no? Happy belated anniversary to you! Honestly, I would never have known about the wooden anniversary thing if I didn’t Google it. Don’t think it’s common knowledge, but kind of fun to learn, no? Happy belated anniversary to you!

]]> By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/12/five-years/#comment-2087 Aidan Donnelley Rowley Sun, 20 Dec 2009 20:12:22 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3491#comment-2087 Thanks for the congratulations and the marital advice. Now, I must brew up a pot of patience, learn to embrace change in self and others... Easy as pie, right? In all seriousness, you bring something up here that I don't think is talked about enough, namely that even an excellent marriage is HARD. Marriage is not just a passive state of being. It is an active engagement, the best kind of balancing act. Will not comment on the sex part. (Wait, that's exactly what I'm doing. Oh no.) Goodness, I am a prude :) Thanks for the congratulations and the marital advice. Now, I must brew up a pot of patience, learn to embrace change in self and others… Easy as pie, right? In all seriousness, you bring something up here that I don’t think is talked about enough, namely that even an excellent marriage is HARD. Marriage is not just a passive state of being. It is an active engagement, the best kind of balancing act.

Will not comment on the sex part. (Wait, that’s exactly what I’m doing. Oh no.) Goodness, I am a prude :)

]]> By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2009/12/five-years/#comment-2086 Aidan Donnelley Rowley Sun, 20 Dec 2009 19:59:46 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3491#comment-2086 Monthaversaries... You have us beat for sure. Truly, that is so fantastic that you guys celebrate once a month. I love that the 18th is so meaningful. And often the best celebrations aren't the grand ones. Moments, stripped back and spare, are frequently the most lovely. Monthaversaries… You have us beat for sure. Truly, that is so fantastic that you guys celebrate once a month. I love that the 18th is so meaningful. And often the best celebrations aren’t the grand ones. Moments, stripped back and spare, are frequently the most lovely.

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