Comments on: I’m Not Sure I Should Tell You This

By: Shawna

Shawna — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 17:22:53 +0000

This is where I share my “holy shit I’m pregnant eight months after my husband’s vasectomy” story. Except that about covers it. And while it wasn’t planned, the second I even suspected I was pregnant we were both thrilled. Our hearts make room for happiness and since this was our fourth babe, we already knew that we had the capacity for it.
One more question: why is it that we will willingly talk about our struggles with parenthood but not about struggles with marriage? Why is the line so different? I do it too but when I really think about it I don’t know why?

By: Beth

Beth — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 18:25:34 +0000

I think its embarrassing too, especially when you are buying them, while your kids are with!

And I do have a great pregnancy test story, you will have to come visit me tomorrow to hear it

By: Privilege of Parenting

Privilege of Parenting — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 05:12:30 +0000

I think your point about adjusting to whatever our situation turns out to be is a mark of healthy functioning—since wanting what we have is an essential key to happiness (it keeps us in the here and now and helps us trust in a world over which we actually have fairly little control). What we can, with a little work (or perhaps with good parenting), control is our attitude toward our situations.

I think your honesty, and obvious love of others, is an act of generosity.

Namaste

By: Linda

Linda — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 04:47:58 +0000

I’ve written a lot about my mom. I tell her afterwards and she always thinks it’s a hoot, but I have to say, there’s some solace in the fact that she can’t figure out how to turn on a computer! Also she’s been gracious enough to have given me carte blanche to write about her.

By: Mary Poppins in Heels

Mary Poppins in Heels — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 03:29:20 +0000

I think it feels embarrassing–or maybe foreign–because it’s a lot like writing our personal stuff for all to read: It’s private. We stroll into a store and lay our fears, expectations, desires–any and/or all of these, plus some–out, right there in the aisle of the Rite Aid. Before we walked into the store, we wondered about the unknown. We thought about wanting or not wanting a baby and, so often, what we felt was a really bizarre combination of the two.

It feels weird because it’s personal and private, but we haul our asses out of the house and into the world, pick up the test and try, try, try not to react or comment or fold, right there in the Rite Aid.

Yeah, I’ve felt it, too, Aidan, and I’m a lot more than 31. It doesn’t change. Sorry.

Mostly, I don’t talk to anyone about posting something. My brother, my writing mentor, reminds me to write for no one but me. Asking first might throw me, so I don’t ask. It’s nice that you talk to your mother about what you write before you post, though.

By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley

Aidan Donnelley Rowley — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 02:59:55 +0000

Welcome to ILI, C! I think you and I follow similar blogging strictures. I don’t know why the one today gave me such pause, but I am so thrilled I went for it because it seems that so many people can relate. I think these little moments, these stories, are what make us human. Thanks very much for your comment!

By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley

Aidan Donnelley Rowley — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 02:55:04 +0000

Suzicate – Welcome to ILI! I am thrilled to see that you and others related to this post. I was oddly quite nervous about publishing this which I guess shows that despite having a pseudo-public persona, I am actually quite private and cautious. I agree with you that we take what we are given and make the best of it. I think this is for the most part a great thing. Thanks so much for your comment!

By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley

Aidan Donnelley Rowley — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 02:50:57 +0000

Ooooh. That IS crazy. But I love dreams. Wait until LIFE AFTER YES to see how much!

By: C @ Kid Things

C @ Kid Things — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 02:46:32 +0000

I also follow many rules when it comes to blogging. Nothing that I feel could ever be truly embarrassing, for one. There is nothing wrong with sharing a brief moment of excitement over a pregnancy test. Nothing wrong at all.

By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley

Aidan Donnelley Rowley — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 01:27:30 +0000

Go read Mo, Sasha (and everyone else). He is a flummoxing master of all niblets serious and silly. Trust me.