Comments on: Dealing with Distance http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2010/01/the-devastation-of-distance/ Ivy league Insecurites Thu, 09 Feb 2012 23:09:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Nine Pounds, Six Ounces, Too Many Miles | ivy league insecurities http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2010/01/the-devastation-of-distance/#comment-3272 Nine Pounds, Six Ounces, Too Many Miles | ivy league insecurities Tue, 02 Feb 2010 10:47:11 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3766#comment-3272 [...] I mentioned in a recent post, Sister N and her family live in Chicago and the distance has been difficult, particularly during [...] [...] I mentioned in a recent post, Sister N and her family live in Chicago and the distance has been difficult, particularly during [...]

]]> By: DPS http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2010/01/the-devastation-of-distance/#comment-3017 DPS Fri, 22 Jan 2010 21:05:14 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3766#comment-3017 Aidan, have you tried Skype? I was quite the skeptic too, but with sis, also preggers in Boston, and mom in DC and after much cajoling by sis I tried it...And I have to say it's really really really cool. It's not the same, but it's so much nicer to see a face with a voice...and my sister and I each get to watch our respective nieces who aren't so great on the phone yet. You should totally try it...or better yet, why don't you guys just come back to Chicago!!! We'd love to see you again soon :) Aidan, have you tried Skype? I was quite the skeptic too, but with sis, also preggers in Boston, and mom in DC and after much cajoling by sis I tried it…And I have to say it’s really really really cool. It’s not the same, but it’s so much nicer to see a face with a voice…and my sister and I each get to watch our respective nieces who aren’t so great on the phone yet. You should totally try it…or better yet, why don’t you guys just come back to Chicago!!! We’d love to see you again soon :)

]]> By: Indigo http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2010/01/the-devastation-of-distance/#comment-2898 Indigo Tue, 19 Jan 2010 14:54:30 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3766#comment-2898 I'm the oldest of six. I know shocker. Quite a few people assume I'm an only child as I never talk about my siblings. Let's just say I left home at 16 for a reason. That reason in the end ultimately put things into play that would protect my 3 sisters and 2 brothers. They never knew why or the sacrifice I made to protect them. And they never will... I've come to accept one person having to live with the truth is a small price than damaging five lives. In the end I'm left with no family and 5 siblings who are strangers. Some people would say, time and age should even the balance and why not tell them now that they are adults? I can't answer that. I guess keeping this secret from them never brought into play the cost to me. All I ever saw was 5 lives I held with more esteem and cherished more than my own. They don't need to know and I don't need to give them a savior for a sister. Do I miss them and that bond we used to have (I practically raised them before leaving home). Yeah, but it's been so long - 28 years. We are but strangers now. (Hugs)Indigo I’m the oldest of six. I know shocker. Quite a few people assume I’m an only child as I never talk about my siblings.

Let’s just say I left home at 16 for a reason. That reason in the end ultimately put things into play that would protect my 3 sisters and 2 brothers. They never knew why or the sacrifice I made to protect them. And they never will…

I’ve come to accept one person having to live with the truth is a small price than damaging five lives. In the end I’m left with no family and 5 siblings who are strangers. Some people would say, time and age should even the balance and why not tell them now that they are adults? I can’t answer that. I guess keeping this secret from them never brought into play the cost to me. All I ever saw was 5 lives I held with more esteem and cherished more than my own. They don’t need to know and I don’t need to give them a savior for a sister.

Do I miss them and that bond we used to have (I practically raised them before leaving home). Yeah, but it’s been so long – 28 years. We are but strangers now. (Hugs)Indigo

]]> By: ambrosia http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2010/01/the-devastation-of-distance/#comment-2885 ambrosia Tue, 19 Jan 2010 04:20:03 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3766#comment-2885 My husband and I live away from both our families. We live only a state or two apart, yet the distance gets to be bothersome. It is especially difficult during times when I am struggling. Pregnancies, post-partum baby blues, and other times when I really just want my sister or my mom. I can feel your pain. It makes my eyes water just thinking about it. Congratulations to your sister! My husband and I live away from both our families. We live only a state or two apart, yet the distance gets to be bothersome.

It is especially difficult during times when I am struggling. Pregnancies, post-partum baby blues, and other times when I really just want my sister or my mom.

I can feel your pain. It makes my eyes water just thinking about it.

Congratulations to your sister!

]]> By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2010/01/the-devastation-of-distance/#comment-2884 Aidan Donnelley Rowley Tue, 19 Jan 2010 02:04:24 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3766#comment-2884 Cari - hello and welcome! I DO remember meeting you at M's wedding! Did we meet on line for the fancy portable toilets (sorry if this is too much information for my readers!) I remember our conversation distinctly. I remember how huge I was. Baby arrived less than two weeks later! I am glad this post resonated with you. Distance is so difficult, but also so common I am realizing. I hope that you and your family are doing well and I hope you continue to pop by my neck of the bloggy woods! I will certainly tell M that we had a little reunion here. Or maybe she will see this exchange before I get a chance to tell her. Thanks for your comment! Cari – hello and welcome! I DO remember meeting you at M’s wedding! Did we meet on line for the fancy portable toilets (sorry if this is too much information for my readers!) I remember our conversation distinctly. I remember how huge I was. Baby arrived less than two weeks later!

I am glad this post resonated with you. Distance is so difficult, but also so common I am realizing. I hope that you and your family are doing well and I hope you continue to pop by my neck of the bloggy woods! I will certainly tell M that we had a little reunion here. Or maybe she will see this exchange before I get a chance to tell her. Thanks for your comment!

]]> By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2010/01/the-devastation-of-distance/#comment-2883 Aidan Donnelley Rowley Tue, 19 Jan 2010 02:00:00 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3766#comment-2883 San - Welcome to ILI! A coincidence indeed! I do think that technology has the ability to take the sting out of physical distance, but I don't think anything will ever hold a candle to actual proximity. I hope that your sister is doing well! Thanks for your comment :) San – Welcome to ILI! A coincidence indeed! I do think that technology has the ability to take the sting out of physical distance, but I don’t think anything will ever hold a candle to actual proximity. I hope that your sister is doing well! Thanks for your comment :)

]]> By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2010/01/the-devastation-of-distance/#comment-2882 Aidan Donnelley Rowley Tue, 19 Jan 2010 01:57:34 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3766#comment-2882 Candace - Welcome to the comment box! I think the concept of a "necessary evil" is very intriguing. I think I will write about this at some point. It's interesting because I wrote this post bemoaning the relative distance between myself and my sister and it didn't even occur to me that there can sometimes be a devastation inherent in being too close too. Thanks for your comment! Candace – Welcome to the comment box! I think the concept of a “necessary evil” is very intriguing. I think I will write about this at some point. It’s interesting because I wrote this post bemoaning the relative distance between myself and my sister and it didn’t even occur to me that there can sometimes be a devastation inherent in being too close too. Thanks for your comment!

]]> By: Aidan Donnelley Rowley http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2010/01/the-devastation-of-distance/#comment-2881 Aidan Donnelley Rowley Tue, 19 Jan 2010 01:54:13 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3766#comment-2881 Laura - Welcome to ILI! I will certainly check out your blog and I hope my readers do too. (And I might just have to ask your advice about how to convince Husband to agree to four kids. No, we don't even have three yet, but I like to dream big!) As one of five sisters, I totally agree about the not being the center of attention thing. I think this is a really good thing. I have always been surrounded by bright and fun comrades (my sisters) who got just as much attention as I did. I do hope you come back to read my words and hear about the latest addition to our extended family! Laura – Welcome to ILI! I will certainly check out your blog and I hope my readers do too. (And I might just have to ask your advice about how to convince Husband to agree to four kids. No, we don’t even have three yet, but I like to dream big!)

As one of five sisters, I totally agree about the not being the center of attention thing. I think this is a really good thing. I have always been surrounded by bright and fun comrades (my sisters) who got just as much attention as I did.

I do hope you come back to read my words and hear about the latest addition to our extended family!

]]> By: Corinne http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2010/01/the-devastation-of-distance/#comment-2880 Corinne Tue, 19 Jan 2010 01:32:40 +0000 http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/?p=3766#comment-2880 My parents moved to Florida shortly after I got married, for my father's work. And it kills me. It kills me that they're so far away from us, the grandkids, everything. But it's necessary for them right now, so we deal. I wrote a post about it over Christmas at some point because it was eating me up. In any case, I'm thinking of your sister, and hope you get out there to see the newest addition to the family! :) My parents moved to Florida shortly after I got married, for my father’s work. And it kills me. It kills me that they’re so far away from us, the grandkids, everything. But it’s necessary for them right now, so we deal. I wrote a post about it over Christmas at some point because it was eating me up.

In any case, I’m thinking of your sister, and hope you get out there to see the newest addition to the family! :)

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