Comments on: In-Laws or Outlaws?

By: Mallard

Mallard — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 20:59:05 +0000

My inlaws are the most supportive and genuine people. I was terrified to meet them, but it was within a few minutes that I realized that they were just as worried as I was.
In fact, after a few Sunday dinners and holidays (I live in a different country than my family), I realised that I liked them more than my own family, which was the really scary part.

By: Maidy-Bunks’ Picnic | ivy league insecurities

Maidy-Bunks’ Picnic | ivy league insecurities — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 11:47:34 +0000

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By: Christine LaRocque

Christine LaRocque — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 11:32:35 +0000

My husband is my high school sweetheart, so I met my in-laws when I was only 15. I didn’t feel intimidated by them at all, but I actually think I had a better relationship with them then than I do now. Perhaps it was because I was working so hard to impress. Either way, you should feel incredibly blessed to feel like your in-laws are family. I cannot identify with that feeling at all. I’ve never felt like a member of the family, valued or loved in any way by my in-laws. I don’t think that’s intentional on their part, I just think they see family different than what I’m used to.

I hope your visit is/was wonderful!

By: Privilege of Parenting

Privilege of Parenting — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 06:36:50 +0000

My in-laws are gone now, and I miss them, but I feel their spirits and send good wishes that you’ll feel your dad’s love and pride in you on his birthday. My dad’s 84th was St. Patrick’s Day and I’m blessed to still have him… since it’s taken this long to get to a better place with him. He and my mom are not the easiest in-laws… they can get you puking even when nothing’s rotten in Norwalk.

Namaste

By: Jack

Jack — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 06:30:15 +0000

My blog has posts dedicated to my grandfather, a dear friend and my dog all of whom I still miss. It has been a tremendous outlet and a place that has given me more than I can possibly say.

As for in-laws, well I have a love/hate thing with mine but that is all I will say here.

By: Shannon

Shannon — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 01:47:11 +0000

I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. I can’t imagine how difficult that must be.

I only have one in-law, as my husband’s father died a couple years before I met him (15 years ago), and overall things are pretty good. We’ve had our issues and she has struggled with a nervous breakdown and pretty major depression, but the important stuff is there. She is a fantastic grandmother, very helpful, never bossy or telling me what to do or how to raise my kids. She spends lots of time with my three kids and genuinely loves them dearly. So, overall . . . pretty darn good!

I hope your weekend was fantastic!

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 15:42:27 +0000

My inlaws are great in their own way. They don’t watch the children or help out with our daily lives, but they also don’t meddle or judge. My mother, on the other hand, helps out tremendously (when she can considering she works 2 jobs) but lays the judgment and meddling on thick.

By: The gold digger

The gold digger — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 15:02:48 +0000

My dad died 13 years ago and I still miss him. My sympathies on your loss.

My outlaws. Oy. Two weeks before the wedding, they got mad at something I had written in my blog and told my husband they weren’t coming to the wedding and he shouldn’t marry me. It took him a week to convince them to come (I was fine with their not being there) and he finally had to tell them I was pregnant and if they ever wanted to see their grandchild, they would show up for the wedding.

Then I had a miscarriage while they were staying with us.

They are not my favorite people. I am working on a book. If I do publish it, it will have to be under a pseudonym because my book will be exactly about my outlaws and the horrors they have brought into my life. Well, not horrors, but definitely material. (Doesn’t everyone want a framed photo of their inlaws as a Christmas present after they have spent $500 on plane tickets to visit them and do all their household chores?)

By: Liz

Liz — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 13:41:49 +0000

How seredipitous..! I just wrote a post about how tough it can be when the grandparents are fully involved in the raising of your kids, and one of the commenters (Kitchen Witch) referred to them as “outlaws” and I thought that was, oh, so clever!
My in laws are pretty good, but there is definitely some dysfunction and tension there.
My mother in law doesn’t “get” me, I don’t think. Then again, I don’t think I’ve allowed her to, either.
Anyways, I’m a bit of glamour girl…stiletto lover, make up fiend, fashion addict. What did she give me for Christmas last year??? Tupperware and kitchen towels.
That says it all.

By: Rachel Cotterill

Rachel Cotterill — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 21:28:34 +0000

I’ve always felt very fortunate with my in-laws. We get along nicely… so many people don’t seem to have that.

As for starting to blog – I think I just started because I’m a chatterbox with a lot to rattle on about. What keeps me going is a different story, one which is all about community and friendships forged across the miles.