A Fresh Start for Husband
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I have much to fill you in on. Little Girl is three months old today. My high school reunion turned out to be a lovely affair. I am continuing to have mini-but-magical epiphanies about my life. And I will tell you about all of these things, these good things, but today I must write about something else.
Husband starts his new job today.
I remember the evening well. It was several months ago. I was wildly pregnant and the big girls were asleep. Husband and I sat at our dining table. We ate Indian takeout. My man was a bit quiet that night and I asked him what was wrong. He told me he didn’t feel good – physically or existentially. What followed was an amazing, if tough, conversation about change. Husband confessed a desire to change things up. He was getting antsy at this job, he was missing his former athletic self, his sense of vigor and energy for life that having young kids inevitably zaps. It was a wonderful exchange because it was so open, and vulnerable, and real. It was also heartening because I could relate to everything he said; the sense of feeling exhausted and a bit uninspired. The desire to evolve.
Since then, Husband has found a great job at an incomparable company. This incomparable company was good enough to let my man take five weeks off before starting so that he could spend time with our little girls. In the past five weeks, the girls and I have been spoiled having Daddy around. There have been many adventures and home-cooked meals and laughs. It saddens me to know we won’t likely have this untethered time again – when we are all here and free and not bogged down. But it makes me happy that we’ve had this opportunity to immerse ourselves in true family time.
So today he begins a new chapter and I’m hugely optimistic. There is a twinkle in his eye that is undeniable. He also looks fantastic after dropping fifteen pounds on a (very manly!) nutritional cleanse. This part will no doubt embarrass him, but oh well. He looks hot! Yesterday, I sent my chiseled guy off for a massage. A little, but well-deserved back-to-work present. The three girls and I held down the fort at home, wearing pajamas, watching cartoons, nibbling on white chocolate chip pancakes Daddy whipped up before he left.
So? The point is that I am proud. I am proud that my man has taken charge of his own life, his own happiness, and has changed things. I have always believed in fresh starts and I believe deeply in this one. There is always room in life for progress.
Good luck today, babe! The girls and I eagerly await your return home this evening 
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Do you believe in personal and professional fresh starts? Have you had moments when you’ve admitted to yourself that you need to figure out a way to feel better (literally and metaphorically) about life? Do you think it is superficial that I am psyched that Husband looks extra hot these days? Have you ever been inspired by your own partner?
Congratulations to Mr. Rowley! A fresh start is so full of promise.
Congratulations! I hope today is great. xo
That’s awesome about your husband’s job! It doesn’t pay to stay in something that makes you unhappy.
I love how excited you are for him. Change, when it comes to work, is complicated and I’m sure your support has helped make this happen.
I watch my man complete his first tri this weekend. It’s so silly but I was proud (and worried) when he came across the finish line. And I think it’s fantastic when you feel your partner is hot and (even more) attractive. Isn’t that why you’re married? Obviously not the only reason but doesn’t hurt. Manly cleanse, love it.
Oh! Lady, I am so happy for you. I remember when my husband HATED his job and it was miserable. There’s nothing like seeing your husband excited to start the day. I hope more men have the same uncomfortable epiphany and the same wonderful fresh start. God bless!
Congratulations to Husband! …and I want to hear more about your reunion…was the conversation deep or did you “dance around the big things and take refuge in small talk.” I hope not. I hope it was enlightening and entertaining and just a little bit silly.
xo
Jocelyn
Congrats to you and your husband Aidan! New career starts are daunting at first, but so reenergizing. I don’t believe we were meant to have the same career/job forever. Hope husband has a great first day!
My husband was laid off for a year and it was one of the best times in our marriage and family. He was home with Wee ‘Burb til she was 6 months old, and it was awesome! He is so bonded with his little girl.
I am a big believer in change. My husband is in desperate need of a change, too. I hope he gets it soon!
How exciting! It is so great you two were able to talk through the things he was unhappy with and find a better situation!
That’s awesome! And so inspiring that he was bold and brave enough to change things up as opposed to staying in a funk (since it can be so easy to stay in a funk. Believe me, I know). Good luck to your hubby today!
Yay Congratulations! Everyone needs a fresh start once in awhile to mix things up. Someone once told me “if you’re not scared, you’re not growing.”
That’s so awesome! That you were able to have that kind of conversation with your husband and that he was able to find a job to make the change he needed. Great also that you got some family time in the interim. Best of luck to him!
When work makes you miserable it can be very trying upon everyone else, especially when you are the sole source of income. I have been there, it is no fun.
Congratulations on the new gig.
Congratulations to your husband on his fresh start! So many people are trapped by this crummy economy in jobs they don’t love or even like. It’s nice when someone gets motivated and is able to make their dreams come true.
As to thinking he’s hot, no, that’s not superficial. That’s lovely. Superficial would be if you actually had loved him less with the 15 lbs than you do now.
I think fresh starts are great in all aspects of life. I am at that point right now, do I stay in the same career or do I change (I need to use my skills more)?
I am glad that after three babies and everything, your other half still curls your toes, wonderful!
Hope he had a good start in his new job!